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Subject: It sounds like your family deals with these situations in a manner that is very similiar to ours. For centuries, my family has been heavily involved in the local church, etc. and served as the caretakers for the cemetery there. They keep the records about who in the community owns what plot, etc., and do the regular maintenance and groundskeeping. They also dig the graves, and fill them in. In fact when my parents died, it was their sons and grandsons who dug their graves and then filled them in. It will probably be my nephews or greatnephews who do that for me. Also, just like in your situation, my mother started putting together a list years before she knew she was terminally ill that recorded 'who would get what'. And she used nail polish to put names on the bottom of various dishes, etc. that she wanted to go to specific family members. While I'm not a big Walmart fan, I personally don't see anything wrong with people having the option of purchasing a coffin at a reasonable price. Funerals have grown to be a very expensive business. /faysie
Response Posted by: faysie
Date Posted: Fri Oct 30 10:22:41 2009
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Subject: Yes, it does sound like our families are similar. Does your laugh a lot through tears? If there was a *good* memory about the days surrounding grandpa's death and his funeral is that there was just as much laughter as there was tears. Like I said--bittersweet. eom, Shannon L.
Response Posted by: Shannon L.
Date Posted: Fri Oct 30 14:14:47 2009
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Subject: Yes, definitely... I remember sharing *good* memories with other family members, telling funny stories, etc. about things that had happened during Mom and Dad's lives. They both lead quite long, rewarding lives, so while we all still miss them, there was that feeling that they'd lived a good, long life. Right now, one of my older brothers is fighting prostate cancer. We're hoping that medical advances help him to stay as healthy as possible for as long as possible. The possibility of losing a sibling is daunting. But death is still something that is just there, a part of life that can't be escaped. I was recently down to the funeral of an aunt who was buried in the local cemetery. Most of my siblings were there as well. In fact my brother and I were teasing each other about the likelihood of ending up in the burial spaces of plots that are closest to the county hwy that goes by the cemetery... wondering if the traffic would 'bother us'. My sister actually arranged for a different burial plot because she didn't want to rest 'in eternity' right beside a cousin of ours that she dislikes. LOL. Maybe I should also explain that I come from a background of dairy farmers. There's something about living on the land, caring for animals, etc. that makes death just a natural progression of birth and life. /faysie
Response Posted by: faysie
Date Posted: Fri Oct 30 15:10:21 2009
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Subject: Thank you for sharing that. That's funny about your sister's plot. :) And I hope your brother finds the medical treatments he needs to live as long as possible. OT: I'd like to apologize for the awful grammar and punctuation in my posts. That's what I get for typing in a hurry and not taking the time to really reread what I wrote before hitting the post button! eom, Shannon L.
Response Posted by: Shannon L.
Date Posted: Fri Oct 30 15:18:38 2009
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