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Topic: Why do some people have such a hard time believing us, when we say our kids....

My husband was taking the train to work the other day, when someone we haven't seen in years gets on the train. They spent the whole train ride catching each other up on things. Of course each other's kids was what they mostly talked about. The gal starts talking about how every time her daughter goes out drinking she gets sick. Her daughter is only 16. She asked my husband if we have problems with our kids drinking. He told her no, because they don't. He said she just had this look of disbelief in her eyes.

I really don't think my husband and I are gullible fools. We have no reason to believe our kids drink. My oldest son is excited about turning 21 next year, but not so he can drink, he can't wait to see what a casino is like. All 3 of my kids graduated from DARE. Now I know DARE doesn't always work; but I believe it has for my kids. They also are involved with an organization that is all about making good choices. So it just irks me when we say our kids don't drink and people don't believe it. I wish I could come up with a good line to respond to their disbelief.

I don't like the taste of alcohol and never got into it.  I don't think I had a real drink til I was 25, and it still never caught on.

But I am in the minority here, extreme minority.

I think kids like to drink because they are too stupid about life and think getting high comes from an external source when it doesn't come from there at all.  Others drink because they like it  but eventually they will feel some emptiness somewhere.  Then again I spend my money on other things since I am always just breaking even, so if it's not one thing it's another I guess.

Its believeable to me. Some just don't like it.  For all my life when there was drinking and if someone insisted I have one, I would spill it somewhere the moment no one was looking.  I don't mind alcohol in food like Rum cake or Whisky Balls.  Beer is particularly repulsive to me. 

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(sam) I will never understand the attraction to beer. Blech!

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Posted by: sam
Date posted: Thu Jun 26 21:03:14 2008
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My brother has smoked since he was 13, and hid it from my mom till a few years ago, and only because I told her since he wasn't pulling his weight around the house, leaving her with more bills than she should have to pay yet saying he didn't have the money. I don't know if your kids drink or if they don't, but they could be hiding it, or they might not drink. My sister and I drank while under-age and our parents didn't know because we sobered up before coming home! Nobody knows except them, and if your son is about to turn 21, I don't know why it's even an issue. I just wouldn't bring up the topic, or comment on it.

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Posted by: rushlan
Date posted: Thu Jun 26 16:34:15 2008
Message:

I think SusieB is right, they are probably envious.  If you really want to say something about it to these disbelievers, use just that and say, "Our kids don't (or have chosen not to) drink, how unfornuate that your children didn't make the same choice."  You can go on to talk about how many young people are killed in car accidents each year because of teenaged drinking.  Maybe, just maybe, one parent will hear what you are saying and talk to their own children about it.

I think it's great that your kids have made the choice not to drink and wish more would do the same.  You have obviously been doing a good job of raising intelligent kids, good for you!

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Posted by: SusieB
Date posted: Thu Jun 26 16:09:41 2008
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I dont have kids but  I think what matters is you know its true and that should be all that matters.  Why feel the need to defend your self and your kids?  Probably the other parents are a bit envious that your kids are making good choices.

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Exactly. ~i&b

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