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Topic: Ever have a REALLY BAD haircut? I just did :o(

Topic Posted by: Ashley
Date Posted: Fri Jul 11 20:09:12 2008
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You know, in all my years, I've not generally had too many bad trips to the hairdresser. My hair is straight (so I get perms) and mousy dirty blonde (so I get highlights) and it's still never been too bad. Until today.

Needed a haircut, but once I made the appointment, my hair started to look great! (Does that happen to anyone else?) But I went ahead for the appointment, and said - I'm willing to try something new, just not too short. Well. It's too short. I've decided I can live with the length (on the sides) - not that I have any choice. But the back ... OY! What what she thinking! It's shaved up, like a wedge. It looks terrible! I want to cry :o(

And to make it even better, I'm starting to look for a new job, and one of my dearest, oldest friends is coming to town to visit (first time in about 5 years) and I'm going to look horrible :o(

Please tell me if it happened to you, and how you lived through it. Personally I came home & had some wine ... and I'm just not going to look in the mirror for a while.

(BTW, I know that, in the grand scheme of things, it's no huge tragedy. I just really, really hate it.)

Posted by: Dot
Date posted: Sat Jul 12 19:45:22 2008
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A few years back I went to a stylist that I was not familiar with. She butchered my hair, and I was very upset. I was all bent out of shape about it and was feeling very sorry for myself. Then I had a real wake up call. Our department had just hired a new Director and we were all invited to a going away deal that was being hosted by the department that the director used to work for. Among the people that were at the gathering was one of the managers that was on long term disabilty, who was fighting terminal cancer. When this gal arrived she was wearing a really cute hat and had the biggest smile on her face. She promptly took off the hat and proudly showed us the single hair that had grown back since her chemo stopped. Boy was that a wake up call for me.... I felt like a real schmuk... and was so relieved that I had not complained to anyone about my bad haircut. In less than a month my hair grew back and the bad haircut was a distant memory, but I must say that it did teach me a lesson.

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PS .... I forgot to mention that after the stylist cut my hair she asked me how I liked the cut .... she said that she was trying something new. I asked her if she had ever tried the cut before and she told her that she had seen videos but she had never actually done the cut. I promptly told her that I watched ER on a regular basis but I was not planning on trying out brain surgery. Dot

That's exactly what I was thinking - I really, REALLY hate the way it looks, but in the grand scheme of things - I'll live, you know? As I left I think I let my stylist know that I was really not sure about this (and I usually am quite happy with her work and tell her so) - hope she got the message ............. Ashley

Posted by: cook
Date posted: Sat Jul 12 16:53:43 2008
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The worst one for me was about 6 weeks before giving birth to my first child. My hairdresser at the time convinced me I should go ultra short for convenience sake. Little did either of us know that my face would suddenly gain 20 pounds! Oh the horror of it! I cringe when I view my baby shower photos or the photos right after my baby was born. Really the worst "look" I have ever had!

On another note......it is pretty common for me to go and have my hair "blown out" or styled in a specific way if I am going to a party or event. And sometimes just for date night! It looks soooooo much better when someone else does it. And I really like doing "period" styles for different dresses that I have found at vintage stores. (very Jana ish. Except I like the 70's too) Unfortunately, unless I book ahead, there is no way I am going to get in to my regular salon full of serious pros. So I have gone to Super Cuts a few times. No scissors involved. The price was great, but the blow out was usually not very good. And forget about updos etc. They have a put your name on the list system there. Well, one time I got this Asian guy that could barely speak English. Not really an issue in this case. Right away at the shampoo bowl I was getting a bad feeling. And so was he!!!! He went through the motions. And you could feel the dread in the air. From both of us. I am not one to confront situations and am usually overly wary of hurting people's feelings. We could both tell he had NEVER done this before. Can you believe it? He got started, randomly blowing my hair and I finally said something. He offered to get someone else and I had to sit there and wait 20 minutes for someone else to take over. They said that so far, he had only done men's hair and he just started! Don't you have to have basic skills to be licensed? I can't believe they turned him loose in the salon! And hoped for the best!!!!

So I boycotted Super Cuts after that and started using Toni & Guy under these circumstances. I have always been happy with my blow outs and updos but noticed an odd phenominum there. Besides the extreme popularity of tatoos and piercings. EVERY time I have ever been there one of the employees has been crying. Always. Weird huh?

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Hmmm - someone crying eh? That is weird ... Sorry to hear you got a bad cut just before having your baby - maybe super short is easy for a new mom to care for, but if you look back and cringe at the photos - not good ............. Ashley

Posted by: SusieQ
Date posted: Sat Jul 12 14:51:12 2008
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Oh, Ashley, I'm sorry about your bad haircut! I had one a couple months ago. I'm trying to let mine grown out a little and when I came home from the hair stylist my husband told me I looked like the little dutch boy! She had cut my bangs straight across! This last time when I went I told her I like my bangs longer and angled.

I'm another one who always has a good hairday right before I'm scheduled to get it cut!

Remember these hair days -

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It does make me feel better to hear that other folks have had bad cuts and lived to tell the tale! (Sorry, can't see the photo) .............. Ashley

Posted by: Hugabuga
Date posted: Sat Jul 12 14:28:18 2008
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So you said you had a bad hair day? It happens!

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Unfortunately, I think I'm going to have a few more bad hair days until this is over ... but I know, it happens ............. Ashley

Posted by: CathyC
Date posted: Sat Jul 12 13:10:38 2008
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I'm so sorry Ashley! I think I've had that happen twice that I can think of - both times were the only times I ever gave a hair stylist free rein asked them to do what they thought would look best. Never again - lol.

The first time was when I was younger. I had long straight hair that was all one length and told the stylist I wanted something a bit more current that would flatter my face and lifestyle. Somehow I walked out of there with a 1970s Farrah Faucett hairstyle with WAY too many bangs and completely feathered on the sides. And it was NOT 1970 or even close to it.

The second time was a couple of years ago. I said I wanted a shoulder length style with some layers and natural looking highlights. I stressed the "natural" part a million times and emphasized that I didn't want to look like I had stripes in my hair. When she rinsed out the hair color I almost died. I have dark brown hair naturally and she had added stripes of platinum blond. It was LITERALLY striped - exactly what I was afraid of - and looked completely ridiculous.

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Well I hope I've learned my lesson after this one time!!! I guess it will grow back, I just wish it would grow FASTER!! ............. Ashley

Posted by: monkeymome3
Date posted: Sat Jul 12 12:40:33 2008
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I don't think I have ever had a hair cut that I was happy with until about a week or more after it was done. I think I have high expectations. Even when I paid the big bucks, not happy. So, I am just going to let it grow out like Sharons.

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LOL. We'll be waiting for a picture! LOL.

Yeah, mine only really starts looking decent after about a week - I hope that's the case this time! It's just so ... different. Sigh ............. Ashley

Posted by: rushlan
Date posted: Sat Jul 12 11:01:42 2008
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I have had many haircuts I was not entirely happy about but only one that would be called a bad haircut. The stylist was new to me and she was really rather out there, trying to be really progressive. She gave me this asymmetrical short cut that was just awful. I got a referral to someone else the next day and had him cut it to about one inch all the way around, which was really cute. I would like to keep my hair that short but my hair grows so very fast I would need a trim every 2 weeks and I don't want to go to the salon that often. That was about 14 years ago and the man who fixed my haircut is still cutting my hair.

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You know, I may have had a few in the past that I wasn't thrilled with, but NOTHING this bad - until now ............. Ashley

Posted by: serialmom
Date posted: Sat Jul 12 4:22:46 2008
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Ohhhhh yes! I have two times I will never forget. Once when we just moved to Northern virginia. I made an appointement and had my hair cut. I have very blonde straight hair and wear straight styles. When I was writing the check my daughter (4 1/2) said ''Mom, are you goin' outside like that?'' We we left there was a walkway between buildings. I whipped out a comb and undid all the spray and ''curling iron curls. Awful!

The next event was at work. I worked in a 12 story building with lots of people. For some unknown reason I got my hair cut during lunch. When I came back she had cut my bangs nearly straight across. The first person I saw at my office said ''you look so...... hard.'' I did too. I looked like a prison matron. Had to stay the whole day.

I would never ever let anyone color my hair. In fact I havent really had that many professional haircuts in my life partly because that first story happened when I was 23.

An interesting phenomenon here. It seems just when our hair looks great we seem to do something to it. Why is that?

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Now that I think about it, I went to this same person to just get my bangs trimmed last year and before I'd told her that I like to keep them quite long, so don't cut much - she'd lopped off an inch and it looked so stupid (and that was just before my holidays too!). I should've learned then, I suppose ... and I'm glad to hear that I'm not the only one whose hair starts looking great just before an appointment! ............. Ashley

Years ago, I had my haircut on my lunch hour. When I left the office, I had hair all the way down my back and parted in the middle. When I came back, my hair was above my shoulders with bangs. NO ONE in the office recognized me! People kept asking if they could ''help me.'' LOL! ~i&b

Posted by: Zach
Date posted: Sat Jul 12 0:22:35 2008
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i'm a guy so i can just shave it off :p

I have always felt that getting some stranger to do something as intimate as cut your hair was too invasive a practise to often engage in, and to have to pay them to boot, to do something that personal? I wish I could take my head off and cut my hair myself lol cuz I would know what to do. But no matter how much money you have, no human could ever have the privilage of styling their own hair in a 'hairdresser's eye view'.

I often these days just shave my head. I like short hair so it grows quickly and its free. Even if I make a mistake, it grows in soon so it is more even. The alternate is going there and paying, and maybe or maybe not liking it. But a buzzcut is so easy to do, it is highway robbery to give them money to what I could basically do at home. Then tip?! No thanks!

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Well I can't cut my own hair (it still amazes me that I can style it everyday at home!) but I hear what you're saying. Sometimes hair is so frustrating, I wish I could shave it all off - but now I know, it would look even worse than this!! I don't mind paying for a good cut & style (which I usually get) but this one, ick! No tip for sure ............... Ashley

Posted by: Marie
Date posted: Sat Jul 12 0:01:58 2008
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Wow. I am feeling EXACTLY the same as you!!! I had my haircut on Monday and I absolutely hate it.

My regular gal won't be working for several months .... and I was way overdue to have my hair cut/weaved, so I called a friend whose hair I LOVE and asked her where she goes. I don't know what possessed me to let her give me layers, but I did (I just do better with my hair all one length!) - - so I accept some responsibility for the mess that is now my hair!

The problem is that it looks very choppy around the layered area. One side is shorter and doesn't fall into place AT ALL. The other side is slightly better ... so what do I do??? Go back and ask her to even them out and make the one side that's halfway decent look like the other crappy, shorter side???! I normally have a decent amount of hair .. but now it feels thin, especially around the bottom half. I swear, I feel like Carol Brady!!!

On top of all this, my hair looks darker. I know she weaved blonde highlights into my hair (at least I THINK she did!) ......but I honestly think she chopped off most of the weave once she started hacking away.

ARRRGGGHHHH!!!!!!!!

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Marie, ARGH!!! is right! It does make me feel a bit better to hear someone else is going through it as well, so thanks for that :o) But this was my regular stylist, and I was so mad yesterday, I was already mentally figuring out how I could find a new one!! Guess I'll have to wait and see how I feel when I next feel brave enough for a cut ........... Ashley

Posted by: faysie
Date posted: Fri Jul 11 22:00:49 2008
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I've had a few haircuts that I definitely regretted. Like you, it often seems to me that if I get it cut just prior to some event that I want to look great for, I end up not being happy with the cut and wishing I'd just left my hair alone for the time being at least. In fact I had my hair cut last Friday, the basic cut is ok, but I swear that it's lop-sided on the sides at the back... irritates me everytime I blow dry it. A couple of glasses of wine help to curb the irritation. After that, I keep reminding myself that it will grow and 'it's just hair'.

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More on this subject....I finally got over my fear of terrible hair cuts when I was working overseas - Croatia & Bosnia. I was often having my hair cut by somebody who didn't speak the same language as I did. I'm amazed that I ever ended up with a cut that I liked. After the first few cuts, I finally clued in and had one of the translators from work write a note for me instructing the hairdresser to 'stay with same style - just trim please!!!' and everytime I needed a trim I just showed that note. Now that was interesting..... LOL. eom/faysie

You're right, I'm wishing that I'd just had a trim :o( Oh well, it will grow eventually I guess - I think the back is going to look horrible for a long time though - so layered and short - can't imagine how it will look, growing out ............ Ashley

Posted by: ingyandbert
Date posted: Fri Jul 11 21:56:09 2008
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Yup, more than once, in fact. The worst one ever was a week before I was leaving to visit Mr. Ingy in the Carribean where he was living when we got together. We had known each other for a while and we hooked up while he was in my town on vacation visiting relatives. After just a couple of weeks he had to return to the islands. He invited me to visit over Valentine's Day. I was so excited because we already knew at that point that we would be getting married eventually.

So just before I left, I went for a haircut. I was trying out a salon I'd never been to before -- BIG mistake. Not only did the stylist not pay any attention to what I asked her to do (trim my hair in the same bob hairstyle I already had), but she cut the whole thing about 2'' too short AND cut a huge HOLE (think horseshoe shape)in the back of my head between the ear and the nape of the neck. Then she apparently tried to ''fix'' it by cutting another one (slightly smaller) on the other side. I should have known something was wrong when she seemed to take forever to cut my hair and when she didn't offer me the hand mirror to check it myself. When I got home and checked it out, I just freaked!

The next day, a friend asked me what was up with my crazy haircut. I told her what happened and she called her stylist and got me an appointment as quickly as we could get to the salon. When her stylist saw my hair, he said ''OMG!'', gave me a hug, and told me not to worry because he was going to take good care of me (Awww!). He couldn't fix it all the way and I did have to go a little shorter still, but he made it about 90% better. As it turns out, Mr. Ingy proposed on that trip and we arranged our wedding for just a couple of months later. I got my hair cut on my wedding day (brave, huh?) and it was that haircut that got rid of the last semblence of the prior disaster. Since then, I've been VERY careful about who I allow to take a pair of scissors to my hair!

Good luck with your hair. If you find a good stylist who will do exactly what you say, stick with that person!

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Wow, that's an incredible story! But sweet that he proposed, bad haircut and all :o) This stylist has been doing my hair about a year, I had my previous stylist (at the same salon) for about 15 years ... I guess it was partly my fault, saying I trusted her judgement - not so much anymore!!! And yes, you were brave getting a haircut on your wedding day ............ Ashley

OMG.... I'm not sure I'd say that was 'brave' i&b. Maybe you'd gone slightly insane?? But I'm glad that you were happy with your hair on your wedding day -- what a chance to take though! eom/faysie

Posted by: Peridot
Date posted: Fri Jul 11 21:39:06 2008
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Sorry about the haircut, Ashley. I've had a few bad haircuts over the years but my hair grows so fast I never get a chance to mope about it for long. Once when I was in grade school my mother insisted all us girls get pixie cuts during the summer, for convenience probably. Very short, angular cuts make my face look like a blob of dough and I was VERY unhappy with this style. Never again. Until your hair grows out more, I think wine is an appropriate antidote. ; )

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Sounds like we both shared a similiar experience - about age 8???? LOL. Hated those haircuts!! And to make matters worse, my BF's uncle always teased me that I looked like a boy with it! :(

You know what? I had that same pixie haircut as a kid but I guess I didn't care about hair so much then ... I think more wine is a good idea, have to stop at the store after the gym today!! I keep telling myself that it will grow, it just sucks right now! ........... Ashley