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Do you ever have times when you say something so stupid and are haunted by it later? And beat yourself up for it? Why, oh why, did I say that?
Recently, I was outside in the front yard at my mother's house talking to a friend. Then a neighbor walked by pushing her grandchild in a stroller. We chatted and she told me the baby was Tommy's, a childhood friend. So then I ask "Is that his only one?" Yes, she told me. "Is he planning to have more?"
IS HE PLANNING TO HAVE MORE!!!!!!!!!!
*major cringe*
What possessed me to ask such a STUPID question? First, of all, I don't even CARE about Tommy and how many kids he has LOL
I was embarrassed as soon as I asked it. She was taken aback, then replied this child would be his only because his wife had such a hard time of it. Like that was ANY of my business!
OY!
Ever say stupid stuff? I can't be the only doofus around!
Me, say something stupid that I later regret, no never!
Ha ha. I think I am the queen of doing that! I hate when I do that. What you asked was not so bad, in my opinion. Don't worry, you are not alone pickles. :-)
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Oh yeah, I've said stupid stuff. I always say stupid stuff. I imagine I'm going to say something stupid right now.
I don't think what you said was so horrible. You were making small talk. That's what people do. At least that's what I do.
[rant] You know, I never understand people. On the one hand you have people complaining that no one gets to know their neighbours anymore and no one cares or shows interest in each other. Everybody is cold and self absorbed. But then on the other hand, if anybody dares ask a question about someone's family or any detail about their life, it's like How dare you! and None of your business! Obviously if you kept asking questions like "why did they have so much trouble having kids?" and "what's wrong with her?", that would have been going too far, but you asked were they planning on having more. All she had to say was "no, this is probably it" and that would have been the end of it. Nothing awkward. [/rant]
See, I said something stupid right there. LOL
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Not only do I say stupid things, I lie in bed at night and dwell on things I said years and years ago. I get upset at myself and then can't sleep. Makes me wonder what in the world is wrong with me that I even think of those things. Glad to know I'm not alone.
Dottie
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LOL - I'm laughing at your expense pickles! Did it sound like ''Is he going to have more because this one is so ugly?" I'm kidding you!!!
Of course we all put a foot in our mouths sometimes. What is the hardest is trying to get your foot back out! Sometimes it's best to just let it go by the wayside and hopefully it will be long forgotten.
I think you might have only inserted a big toe anyway. The question wasn't that bad.
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oh, gosh, I think I have perfected the art of saying stoopid stuff, LOL
that probably doesn't make ya feel any better, it doesn't make ME feel any better either,
but....there ya have it :o)
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First off I don't think what you asked was stupid unless the woman had already said the wife died in childbirth or they're divorced/not married.
I think the question was normal chit-chat that would come naturally after discussing the one child.
Now to the other question... yes, I have said stupid stuff, many times.
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No, I never do.
Yeah, right! We all do it. I had a friend years ago that said sometimes she could see herself going on and on but couldn't stop herself. I usually do that when I'm around someone who is VERY quiet. I guess I'm trying to fill up the void in the convo. But it usually amounts to vapid stuff coming out and I think to myself, ''just shut up Gail!'' :-D
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We've all said stupid stuff. It's like the line from the Mary Tyler Moore Show (about Ted said by Murray). (not exact but this is close) I'm not surprised when ted sticks his foot in his mouth - but somehow he gets the other one in there, too.
What you said was a natural off the cuff statment (imo). I wouldn't beat yourself up. You meant no harm or disrespect and I'm sure the woman knows that.
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