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Topic: I could use a few kind words


Topic Posted by: Tina
Date Posted: Wed Nov 4 13:57:33 2009
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I'm taking graduate courses to get my Gerontology Certificate - all online.  2 classes this semester, 2 next, and an internship in the summer.  This paired with my business degree and my many years of experience will hopefully be enough to get my boss' job when she retires in 4 years.  I'll have been here 15 years at that point.

Anyway - I turned in a rough draft of my term paper for one of my classs and got it back today.  I thought I had done a really good job on it and had all these visions in my head of my professor giving me an A+++++ and telling me I didn't need to make any changes!  Well he really bashed it/me big time.

The rough draft was optional - but I wanted to turn it in because this paper counts for 70% of my grade.  So the positives I can take away - 1) he said it was a good start; 2) at least this wasn't my final paper/grade; and 3) at least I have a month to fix it.

I felt so accomplished by having it done and turned in and now I feel so defeated.  He was kind of mean - and I wouldn't call it constructive criticism.

:(

 





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Posted by: cc
Date posted: Thu Nov 5 23:57:17 2009
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Tina, I am late, but please accept my kind words!  Hang in there.  Hope everything is good with hubby, health & family too.  hugs & prayers. 

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Posted by: ML
Date posted: Thu Nov 5 20:52:43 2009
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Some believe that being tough help you in the long run...bet you end up doing really well...

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Posted by: Jolypha
Date posted: Thu Nov 5 11:27:25 2009
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I'll give you a hug!  (((Tina))).

Some teachers do play favorites and don't give constructive criticism at all.  Probably all of us at some point have received marks lower than what we actually earned because a teacher didn't like us, or was in a foul mood.  Life sure can suck.  And look at it this way, you will be earning another degree no matter what! 

At Ball State there was a writers exam that all students had to take.  Some people wrote brilliant papers but were given a no pass because the person reading it didn't like the topic. 


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Posted by: GailJ
Date posted: Wed Nov 4 20:10:42 2009
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Hang in there Tina.  Just take it as a learning experience and run with it.  Good luck on your final paper.  I'm sure you will do well.

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  • I will definitely try my best! That's all I can do. Thanks! Tina

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    Posted by: KarenH
    Date posted: Wed Nov 4 20:02:29 2009
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    Tina, just keep trying to focus on the positives you listed above and the goal you have set for yourself with your career.  I know it hurts like heck when someone is so negative about something you thought you aced.  You will get through this.

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  • I work with older adults and programs for them every day. I learn about new initiatives as soon as they come out. He just teaches about it all. Maybe he's jealous! Tina

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    Posted by: Ginger G
    Date posted: Wed Nov 4 16:48:51 2009
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    Some teachers are just like that for some reason. 

    I remember an English teacher I had in high school who just didn't like me for some reason (I'm not saying that your teacher doesn't like you of course!).  She bashed every paper and assignment I turned in.  I had always received good grades in English up until that year so I just couldn't understand what I was doing wrong, I thought my papers were pretty good!  One of my good friends in the class could barely string two coherent sentences together, and she was getting better grades than me!  Luckily for me the teacher went out on maternity leave midway through the year and didn't come back, and the substitute really liked my writing.

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  • I think he must be this way with everyone! I'm trying not to take it personal. Tina

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    Posted by: Kalia
    Date posted: Wed Nov 4 16:17:47 2009
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    Well, just take it with a grain of salt. I have learned over the years that some professors lack severely in people skills. AND that each are different when it comes to papers. Seems like they each have their own style.

    My 14 year old just came home from school near tears. She got all A's except for one B, and her counselor made it sound like she better buckle down or she may not pass. Now, I'm sure other things were said....but that is what she took from the conversation. What I mean, is that sometimes teachers/professors just don't know how to explain themselves without sounding like jerks.

    Just keep your chin up...and do the revisions as he said and you go in there and ace that paper!!! Positive vibes going out your way!

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  • Thanks! Tina

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    Posted by: ingyandbert
    Date posted: Wed Nov 4 14:32:55 2009
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    Think of it this way:  Whatever doesn't kill you makes you stronger.  If you can survive that jerk, think of all the future jerks whose rudeness will roll off your back because of him. 

    Okay, that may not help but I tried.  ; )

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  • I'm pretty sure he teaches one of my classes next semester too. Yikes! Tina

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    Posted by: PhoenixTamer
    Date posted: Wed Nov 4 14:29:38 2009
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    Tina...hang in there. It sounds like this professor has no people skills, but, maybe if you take what you thought was good and mix in what the professor thought was good, while maybe eliminating what you and the proff both agree weren't the best parts - then, I would be your finished product will be AWESOME!!! :-o)

    Chris/PT

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  • He didn't say any parts of it were good! The only good comment he made was that it was a good start - then bashed and picked out parts that he had issues with. I emailed him back - thanking him for reviewing it and for his comments (ha!) and ask if he had any suggestions for what I could include to improve it. Maybe he'll give me something. I've got to make it longer - so I have to add something! Thanks! Tina
  • Im sorry he was so 100% harsh! - chris

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    Posted by: SusieB
    Date posted: Wed Nov 4 14:26:30 2009
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    well at least it was just the rough draft and he did say it was a good start. Now  you have time to tweak it and hopfully make it more what the teacher is looking for.  He does sound kind of mean though.

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  • I am so glad I turned in a rough draft. I might have failed this class if I had turned that in as my final paper! And I can't afford to do that! Tina

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    Posted by: Lisa P
    Date posted: Wed Nov 4 14:23:34 2009
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    My instructors during my BA were so kind. They would give me feedback that I could use and learn by. Not so when I got my MA in Psychology. Man, some of them were just brutal. I have one paper I saved, because the instructor bordered on just rude. Well, I made it through and graduated with a 3.8. GPA so just dig in and do your best. Just remember teachers are people too and some are not nice :-)

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  • He must be a really unhappy person and enjoy taking out his anger with his own life on others! Maybe he has low self esteem and by putting others down - he makes himself feel better? How is that for an analysis?! Tina

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    Posted by: Silva
    Date posted: Wed Nov 4 14:11:14 2009
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    Well, some people are just mean!  I myself don't think his method is very productive.  Tina, as you already know, you must turn this around, for your own sake, put a positive spin on it.  Sounds like you are already starting to do that.  You will probably never know what his motives are but you do know how capable you are and what you are capable of, so all you can do is rework it to the best of your ability.  Sending positive vibes your way.

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  • My other professor is so much nicer. This guy is just hateful. At least it's online and I don't have to sit in his classroom and look at him. I already have a picture in my mind of what he looks like - and it's not pretty! Thanks! Tina

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