Topic: I'm trying to be positive!! Really, I am!! :)
Topic Posted by: Kat
Date Posted: Sat May 3 10:44:02 2008
Additional Comments:
Yesterday evening, I was opening up the CC bills and on one of Kens cards are charges over $800 that he didn't make!! Some were in Seoul Korea!!! OMG! On the phone with the CC company, cancel card, charges were dropped, and an investigator will be calling. What I want to know is this - Ken had possession of his card...how the hell could that happen?? I rip up statements, BTW... on to the next bit of news.
At 8pm, we get this call from my father - "Kathy, I have bad news..." GOD, I hate it when someone begins a sentence like that! I'm thinking, mom died... Dad said some dr. called him and said they have to admit my mom immediately to Kaiser because she needs a blood transfusion! HUH??? Obviously they took her blood yesterday and that doc saw something he didn't like. So dad says - "Can you come down here? someone has to watch Ronny..." We're on our way.......... We get there and Ronny is in bed, sleeping. Not a peep from him the entire night. Ken and I watch TV and wait for a phone call. My uncle called at 11:30 - he was the one who took them to the hospital. He tells me dad is staying and I need to spend the night OR take Ronny home w/me. Well, I have no bed here for him so Ken and I push the couches together and we try and sleep. Ken snores and I lay awake listening to the ticking of the grandfather clock. I tried to think up something positive about this! LOL! I'm not quite there yet, unless its the fact that the doc spotted something wrong w/moms blood! Anyway, I didn't sleep one wink. THis is hysterical! My parents house is pitch black. Its about 3am, and I have to pee. I go into my parents bedroom and proceed to trip over a chair that was somehow placed in the middle of the room!!! KA-POW!!!!!!!!!!! Down I go! HAHAHAHA!! OK, so Ronny gets up at 6:45, and I give him breakfast, make lunch and put it in the fridge in case dad is late(he said he'll be home at 9 or 10) I lock up and we come home. Now, why do I feel so sad and guilty????? We have the man coming here at 8 to mow the field. I have a car show that I'd love to go to today, but I feel guilty if I do anything pleasurable with my parents at Kaiser!!! I told my uncle that my father absolutely HAS to fix up the cottage because I cannot care for my brother 24/7, and he agreed. He understood and I said - yeah, but does my father???????? Maybe when he picks my dad up this a.m., he'll discuss it with him. Although he is my dads younger bro, maybe, MAYBE he will lsiten to him! Okay, I've bent your ear enough for the day!!! No need to reply unless you feel like giving me a hug or a sleeping pill!! HAH!
Update, I think I'll have to go get Ronny because dad might be staying at the hospital...OMG!
Posted by: Papaya Date posted: Sun May 4 11:00:11 2008
Message: Kat, you're doing the best job you can do. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth...repeat about 5 times. I'm sending positive juju your way! {{{{HUGS}}}}
Posted by: trkdrvrsqueen Date posted: Sat May 3 22:34:45 2008
Message: Hey Kat...been thinking about you for days. I haven't been able to post much for the past 2 weeks. No need to go into the gorey details.....Just want you to know I am thinking of you and yours. BTW I'd like to see some of those moves!! ; ) I bet they're alot like mine!!
Posted by: Kat Date posted: Sat May 3 20:05:19 2008
Message:
I have to tell you guys - Ronny was in hysterics!! I had the little radio on in his room and I started dancing. I begged him to dance with me. Absolutely not!!! AND, to add insult to injury - he laughed at my dance moves!!! I mean, he was laughing so hard tears were streaming from his eyes! WELL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I've never been so insulted!!!
Dad called at 3pm and they were home. We took Ronny back and when we all walked in, Ronny pointed to me and started to laugh! My dad was like - WTH? It was priceless!!!! Ronny had a blast coming here for the afternoon!!
Listen, I just found out that my mom was so low on blood that when the doc called dad last night, he said to bring her in NOW, she could have a heart attack at any second. So, no wonder my dad was so stressed.............
Mom looked better and chatted with us a few minutes. Hopefully this will perk her up. She has lab work Monday, right down the street from them, and on Friday a dr. appointment right down the street from them. Fingers crossed. I had no idea it was that serious concerning the blood.
Posted by: lovey Date posted: Sat May 3 19:12:36 2008
Message: Hi Kat, I wanted to chime in on the credit card issue. A similar thing happened to us in December. My husband went to Memphis on a business trip and someone got his credit card number, expiration and security code off of the back and racked up about $4500 to DirecTV, clothing companies, etc. The card was never stolen so he surmised that a waitress in a diner he went to must have written down the info when she went to process the card for his meal.
The cc company was very good about working with us and we weren't responsible for any of the charges. I learned a great lesson from it though as far as being more vigilant about where I use my card, etc. I go to my online banking site every day to make sure there are no fradulent charges. I didn't know about his cc had even been hijacked until we got the cc statement and by then this girl had spent so much money. I was relieved to have a happy ending to this ordeal.
Staying positive is sometimes hard but keep your head up!! Celebrate the little moments each day. Good luck to you!
Posted by: Mandy Date posted: Sat May 3 17:36:30 2008
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Kat, you are being VERY positive! You helped your parents by staying with Ronny, took good care of him, then went and enjoyed your car show. Good for you!
You are in one of the times of life filled with ups and downs and twists and turns. You just have to put one foot in front of the other, just like you are doing.
Posted by: carmen Date posted: Sat May 3 14:43:54 2008
Message: kat, big hugs for you!! and like ML said it's ups and downs. you start going down the road where everything is smooth and life is going and then BAM you hit that pothole and it stops the car.
as long as you adjust your mindset to continue your life as regular as you possibly can..continue doing what you need to do or want to do, but don't be surprised or upset when you get a call. i hated whenever the phone rang.
as long as ronny is taken care of and you have things situated, go do your thang and don't worry. otherwise you will sit and wait and wait and wait and waste your life away on waiting.
just remember, life happens. keep it going cause your mom and dad would be mad to know you sat around and did nothing waiting for them!
Posted by: misspm Date posted: Sat May 3 14:39:48 2008
Message:
You sound pretty positive to me-especially considering what is on your plate right now.
Life throws us some curves and we have to walk through them, but we don't have to go through them without enjoying the joys and celebrations that life hands us along the way as well. Go to your car show and have a good time. Sitting home won't change the circumstances anymore than going to the car show will. And kick guilt out of the door-you don't need it in your life.
I don't have any sleeping pills but...((((HUGS))))
Posted by: Bonk5 Date posted: Sat May 3 12:23:18 2008
Message: Oh Kat please don't feel guilty, it won't change anything, but just get you nervous and anxious.
Get the uncle to help and talk to your dad so you can get the parents to live in the cottage. What about your brother? Can he not be by himself. (I forgot the story on him)
When these times are hard, you need to take care of yourself. Oh my husband snores, I know about staying awake all night listening to a clock or a bird chirp or something! Try to get some rest today!
Posted by: ML Date posted: Sat May 3 12:09:31 2008
Message:
These things happen with cancer therapy, Kat.
I'm going to share something with you right now. Sometimes, all of the sudden, life seems to change...because it does. All of the sudden, we go from carefree to being burdened...big-time. But, as I've been thinking over the last few days, that's called being an adult. Meeting a challenge...not just being cared for. Meeting a challenge. We'll do it together.
Posted by: Boo Date posted: Sat May 3 11:34:18 2008
Message: Keep hanging on, Kat!! Not unusual for cancer patients to need their blood thickened up. Sorry to be brief, but I'm typing this on my IPhone. This to will pass. HUGS!!!
Posted by: Kalia Date posted: Sat May 3 11:11:54 2008
Message: Oh, I'm so sorry Kat. You sure have a full plate. Your dad is probably so focused on your mom, he isn't thinking straight---I hope you get some sleep today. You need to find time for yourself. (as hard as that is, I'm sure). (((hugs)))
