As some of you may remember, I was married for 36 years before my husband passed away. So are my former sister-in-laws still my in-laws? I thought so, but they must not think so.
I rarely if ever hear from them. No phone calls or cards or letters. It is like I died too. BUT now I own some land with one of the sisters that my husband willed to me. Why we never just put my name on there is beyond me. She came right out and said that she owned it now......since he died. I said no, I have his Will and he left it to me.
Now I would like to sell the little bit of land to her. It is undivided interest so I can't hardly sell it to anyone else. It is blended in with hers.
So she gets her son to offer me like 1/2 of what it is worth. I realize that is probably more that I can get from a stranger but I feel like they are just treating me like a stranger.
so that is my rant and the recipe is below.
CAKE Layer a 9x13-inch baking dish with crescent rolls (one can). Mix three 8-ounce packages of cream cheese, 11⁄2 cups sugar and 1 tablespoon vanilla and layer on the crescent rolls. Top mixture with another can of crescent rolls. Melt one stick butter and pour over top. Sprinkle with cinnamon and sugar. Bake 30 minutes at 350 degrees.
Posted by: JuMPer Date posted: Sun Apr 27 16:35:11 2008
Message: What ingy said.
If you don't NEED the money, hang onto the land. Don't dwell on it too much to affect your health. IF they want the land, they should be willing to pay a fair market value. Boldly let them know that you have had an appraisal, and that you have been advised to go with that appraisal. You feel that it is fair, and if they want the land they you will accept their payment in full, in cash.
I hate it when relatives take you when they shouldn't, and take you for more than they deserve to begin with. Expect to be challenged, but hold your head high. Your late husband would expect you to do so. I am sure that he didn't expect this to happen and would not condone you getting run over like this.
Posted by: Carissa Date posted: Sun Apr 27 15:10:03 2008
Message: It's amazing how different people can behave once a bit of money is involved, huh?
Posted by: Mickie Date posted: Sat Apr 26 11:03:52 2008
Message: Once again ugly greed raises it's head when there is a death in the family. It never ceases to amaze and sadden me no matter how many times I see or hear about it. Wish I could advise you but you do what you think is right. After my BIL died my MIL who had been moving out of their house to live with her latest BF came out the day after the service to pick up a few more things. On her way out the door she informed my SIL ''I assume you know that you aren't in my will'' I haven't been able to look at my MIL the same way since. These two took her in, fed her, etc. never asking for a penny and not getting one either for over three years. She found this guy and moved in with him, they didn't object but told her that they'd keep her room just in case. Two very loving people, for her to say that to my SIL just floored me. Jerry too is very upset with her as it being an uncalled for, tactless remark that didn't even need to be said because neither she (SIL) nor I would expect anything yet this is what was said. Jerry said the only thing that saved my MIL is that it wasn't him and it wasn't said to me!! He knows what I would have done and said!! Sorry, just had to vent a bit because it brought it to mind.
Posted by: Bonk5 Date posted: Fri Apr 25 17:03:26 2008
Message: Thats crappy, but that is what happens. Sometimes you have to go out of your way to keep the connections, ain't fair but thats how it is.
Happened to my mom also after dad died. Never a phone call after awhile. Oh if they saw us kids they would ask about her. When she got sick with the cancer (2 years now she has been gone)they hardly call or come over. Made me mad and sad.
People are strange!
Posted by: Cettie Date posted: Fri Apr 25 15:25:54 2008
Message: Yes indeedy----we had the same situation with my mom leaving her property to my dad when she died and my aunt from hell doing this same crapola to us. Please e-mail me and we can talk about it. starseeker5360@yahoo.com
Posted by: Ginger G Date posted: Fri Apr 25 14:28:32 2008
Message: Your family situation is sad, but not unusual I'm afraid. You should definitely get an independent appraisal and go from there.
Posted by: ingyandbert Date posted: Fri Apr 25 14:16:33 2008
Message: You need to hire an appraiser and then base your offer on the figure he or she comes up with. If your SIL still insists on offering a pittance, I'd hang onto the land and see what transpires in the future.
