Topic Posted by: Katnim
Date Posted: Sun Jun 1 19:15:56 2008
Additional Comments:
A few weeks ago I was watching a Seinfeld episode where Seinfeld has this ?friend he knew when they were both 10 or 11 years old and now this character keeps calling him, wanting to go out with him and Seinfeld has started monitoring his calls so as to avoid him. Infortunately Kramer puts him on to the character and Seinfeld is stuck going out with him.
Well I have a ?friend just like that and she is driving me crazy.
I first met her about 12 years ago as a neighbor in the apartment I was living in at the time. Shortly afterwards she bought a condominium and I went to visit it once. Since then I have gone out to lunch with her once.
I wouldn't mind her except that when she phones me I am stuck on the phone for half an hour listening to her complaints about the people in her building, they are all creeps, or how much she hates living in Vancouver or some other thing. Everything is negative and when I say something it goes in one ear and out the other.
In spite of the fact that I have only gone out to lunch with her once she is always calling and saying why don't we go out to lunch again, why don't you call me and set a date and of course I have never called her ever.
My youngest son was with me one time when she called and despite the fact I told her he was there she just kept on talking for almost 15 minutes before I could shut her up. He then suggested I get an unlisted phone number. Which I did. Well one morning I had just come out of the shower when my buzzer went and it was her asking for my new phone number. I wanted to tell her no but I chickened out and gave it to her. I should get caller ID but I figured with an unlisted number I was safe. wrong.
Her mother is getting on in years so she has, thank god, decided to sell her condo and move to Toronto and I am praying it will sell soon. On Thursday she phoned while I was out to tell me it was still not sold and she took up three tapes on my answering machine just to tell me that.
I wonder if any of you have someone like this in your life.
Posted by: AngelVine Date posted: Fri Jul 11 1:48:55 2008
Message: Bummer...I've got several of those. Distance and caller ID!
Posted by: Roxie Date posted: Fri Jun 20 23:40:00 2008
Message: Hey Katnim. I think a lot of us have had people like that at some point in our lives. You really do need caller ID! Thank God for caller ID. It is the best thing to ever happen to us in these situations, really! Get it immediately. You must be the type of person that does not want to hurt anyone's feeling since you chickened out and gave her your private #, LOL! I think caller ID is your only hope and do not answer when she calls. She'll get the message eventually. At least you won't have to talk to her unless you want to. Good luck!
Posted by: Jenny Date posted: Fri Jun 20 13:21:00 2008
Message: If you truly want to rid yourself of this pest, then do it. Simply tick her off. Tell her to quit calling, that you have nothing in common with her and you don't have the time to waste. Sounds rude, but why should you invest time with someone you regret even knowing? Let her go, she'll find someone else, they always do.
Posted by: maggimae Date posted: Tue Jun 3 11:08:52 2008
Message: I don't have an answer for you, wish I did. We have a milder case with a couple. My husband belongs to a fraternal organization with him and we met at a party. They invited us to their house for dinner with several other couples. Then, of course, we had to invite them and right away they invited us for another dinner. The big problem is that they eat very unhealthy food: lots of starches and red meat. We eat fish and chicken and never have potatoes. So of course when we go to their place, I have to force myself to eat the food and I feel bad having them here for food that they obviously don't care for. I thought I had solved the problem by just meeting them at a restaurant once a month where we could order what we liked, but they still invite us to their place for dinner.
Posted by: Janie Date posted: Mon Jun 2 12:51:13 2008
Message: Your ?friend must be very lonely and has been unable to connect with anyone else to use you as a sounding board so frequently. I had someone like that who I worked with a while back. She was the dean of our dept. She moved to Colorado and started calling me every other weekend and just went on and on about her life there. I got a play by play description of her house room by room and also her daughter's house. She also did this with another person who had worked with us but was unable to contact her for a while so she called me even more! So I gave her the phone number of the other person (the area code had been changed, that's why she couldn't reach her) and I haven't heard from her since. Yea! The other person was a psych instructor so perhaps she had more listening ability than me and hasn't minded the phone calls as much from this ?friend. It's hard when people are so selfish like that. Is there anyone else who you can refer her to? Otherwise you may just have to tell her that you can't talk now and hang up. Hopefully, she will get the message and quit calling so much. I don't blame you for not picking up the phone when she calls. Thank goodness for caller ID. Good luck!
