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Topic: Should I tell this guy Off?

Topic Posted by: Jess
Date Posted: Mon Apr 28 3:02:49 2008
Additional Comments: There is this guy that I'm friends with, and we use to go out. Anyway out of the blue he started texting me every day asking me how I was doing and stuff like that. He invited me over to his place and we fooled around, and now I never hear from him. A part of me wants to tell him off because I'm very hurt by him using me, but I'm also mad at myself for allowing him to use me. Should I tell him off, a part of me wants to tell him how I feel, I don't know what to do. Thanks!

Posted by: Jess
Date posted: Tue Apr 29 2:26:29 2008
Message:

Thank you to every one for their advice! The advice really helped! To the posters who said that this guy doesn't care are so right! Telling him off won't do any good because he doesn't care. I'm going to move on and considered it a lesson learned and never to put myself in a situation like that again. It just hurt because I thought that he was my friend and would never do something like that. By the way he is 34 years old, and I'm 27 and I'm embarrassed by this situation. Thank you so much for every one's advice!

Posted by: Vivian
Date posted: Mon Apr 28 14:56:41 2008
Message:

He obviously doesn’t care that he used you. Don’t make any more of a fool of yourself by calling him. Move on and let it be a lesson. That might sound harsh but it’s reality.

Posted by: CaroleA
Date posted: Mon Apr 28 12:37:02 2008
Message:

ingyandbert could have written my response. There are no victims--only willing participants. Telling off a person who so obviously doesn't care won't make you feel better and it won't make him feel worse. It won't make him all of a sudden see the error of his ways. How old is this boy? If he's over 15, then consider yourself lucky he didn't call. He's a jerk.

I say, forgive yourself for making a mistake, and move on.

Posted by: Angela
Date posted: Mon Apr 28 12:36:51 2008
Message:
I would not contact him......good luck..please keep us posted...

Posted by: Kimipaggz
Date posted: Mon Apr 28 10:14:06 2008
Message:

I agree with A&A's Mom. But I have a question for you: Did you try contacting him after you guys "fooled around"? If you tried to call/text him and he hasn't returned your calls then no I wouldn't try contacting him again. If you didn't contact him after going to his house then maybe you are both in the wrong. I know it's the "right thing" for the man to contact the woman after a "date" but it could work both ways. If either of you have tried to contact eachother, maybe you could be the one to break the ice and call/text and say "what's up".

Now if you have been trying to get in touch with him and he isn't returning your calls, etc... then I would definitely not contact him again. If he calls you tell him you are hurt, that you feel used andf that until he grows up to leave you alone.

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I texted him a few days after we fooled around and he didn't text back, and I haven't tried to contact him since-jess

Posted by: Allys Mom
Date posted: Mon Apr 28 9:24:12 2008
Message:

I don't know that I would seek him out just to tell him off......but if he ever called me again I would tell him in no uncertain terms to 'bite me'......LOL Seriously, I would tell him if he ever called me again that I would appreciate it if he forgot my number. You won't even have to tell him why....I'm sure he will already know.

Some men are just pigs.......sorry this happened to you.

~A&A's Mom

Posted by: ingyandbert
Date posted: Mon Apr 28 8:34:51 2008
Message:

Sounds to me like you're trying to blame him for your own bad judgment. Sorry if that sounds harsh, but you had as much responsibility in what happened as he did so why tell him off?

Don't waste any more time on this guy, learn your lesson and move on.